Introvert Linkage

Here’s a roundup of posts and articles about being an introvert. I foind most of these to be hilarious, and for the most part kind of true about how I think, most especially about people.

There’s  also a  the idea that the Myers Briggs personality tests are  a bunch of bunk’em but I’m okay with that. Even if these personality assessments aren’t any more real than horoscopes, its still a lot of fun, and I enjoyed reading these articles.

General Introversion: I found a lot more articles about genral introversion than articles specific to women. Keep in mind that most of these are probably written to the standard of White males,  because female introverts are so rare, and most people who study this sort of thing, use White men as the default.

http://www.humanmetrics.com/personality/intj-learning-style

https://emspeaks.com/2014/05/03/how-not-to-be-hated-by-an-intj/

INTJ HOMEPAGE

An In-Depth Look Behind the INTJ Stare

 

On Women Introverts: It was a lot easier this time finding posts and articles about female introverts this time.

31 Realities of Life for an INTJ Woman

4 Lessons I’ve Learned as an Introverted Black Girl

http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2012/05/the-angry-black-introvert/

https://oddblackgirl.blogspot.com/2012/09/the-black-introvert.html

http://www.gradientlair.com/post/30536301997/the-black-introvert-struggle

https://getpocket.com/a/read/1096932327

https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/INTJ-women-A-rare-Myers-Briggs-Category

What It’s Like Being an INTJ Woman

INTJ Female: The Unicorn Amongst The Humans

Oh, and here’s a link to a page full of links:

http://www.candiddiversions.com/2014/05/life-as-intj-woman.html

 

On Black Introverts: It was hard finding posts on this topic, that weren’t racially insulting, so I just left those out. I’m not surprised to find that most of them were on Yahoo Answers. I don’t fuck with Yahoo as a source for anything other than my email, as it’s quite possibly one of the most racist, and least informative, of all the search engines. It’s like Fox News for the internet.

http://verysmartbrothas.com/on-successfully-navigating-life-as-a-black-male-introvert/

http://black-introvert-confessions.tumblr.com/

 

 

 

Black; Female; INTJ

I Googled this topic about a year ago and then again this week. There’s very little on the topic of Black women, who are also INTJ, according to the Myers-Briggs Personality Assessments.

From Owlcation

https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/INTJ-women-A-rare-Myers-Briggs-Category

Introversion: The I stands for introverted which means she obtains her energy and personal satisfaction from her thoughts, imagination, and/or creativity rather from external factors like other people, status, and/or possessions.

Intuition: The N stands for Intuition. It means that she draws from stored unconscious knowledge accrued through the years from books, movies, other people, experience, and reflection. Generally, the INTJ has top-notch information stored.

Thinker: The T stands for thinker (as opposed to feeler), and this means that decisions are based on a process of deduction and analysis rather than what she feels. Bear in mind that feeling is related to emotions and is not the same as intuition.

Judgement: The J stands for Judgement, and it means that closure is preferred. Open-ended and unresolved problems and issues are not welcome to the lady INTJ.

I only really understood this description about a year ago, and yeah, I’m most definitely in the INTJ column. I tried to find as much information as possible about being INTJ but found almost nothing at all that addresses my specific issue. There’s information about being a woman and an INTJ,something I understand is extremely rare, but not much on being a WoC and INTJ., which must be even rarer still. (It seems no matter what part of my life I examine I always seem to be contrary.)

1.Yep! I often find myself exhausted after family or business events. I love my family, and love spending time with them, as long as I know ahead of time.  When we have events at my job, I usually get notification months in advance, with an exact date. Introverts like people, we just don’t like surprise events (with people).

2. When I was a kid, I always learned what not to do based on whatever shit my peers, cousins, and siblings, got in trouble for, and this made perfect sense to me. When I figured out that  I needed to learn to speak slang, (in an effort to make myself seem less like a robot to my classmates), I studied that shit like I was learning a second language. Introverts love to make plans. We have plans within plans, and then contingency plans for those. We like for everyone else to have plans too. We generally dislike spontaneity, as it does not involve planning.

3. Yeah, I’d say this is true. For the record though, Introverts do have feelings. We just sublimate them in public, and they generally have no greater priority over our decisions than actual facts. INTJs have feelings. They don’t rule us, though.

4. I would say this is mostly true for me, but I’ve gotten very used to be situations, people, events, and things not being complete sometimes. I don’t like it, but I can lump it.

So, what I’d like to do is reach out to all the INTJ WoC, who get this message. Holla at me, about your lives and experiences. How do you get along with your family, and friends? What’s is it like at your job? How do you approach life? How do people treat you, in general? Lemme know you’re out there. In the meantime, I will try to amass as much information as I can on the topic of being an INTJ and a WoC. I guess I’m just gonna have to do this myself since no one else is doing this. Those of you who really have something to say can do a guest post here, or we can post to a new website, if necessary.

I also found one other resource on this topic. It’s someone’s personal blog and it’s fun and informative.

https://blackintjwoman.wordpress.com/

For example, this paragraph on how the INTJ mind works when we encounter friends and acquaintances:

Imagine an INTJ’s brain like files on your desktop, or an old-fashioned rolodex.  Our “desktop” or “rolodex,” are labeled and categorized. Each time we encounter an acquaintance, we “search” or “thumb” through our “files” for relevant information.  When we find said relevant information, we pull from that storehouse of knowledge.

I’ll post topics about INTJs in Pop Culture, Why we get a bad rap, how are we misunderstood, and coping with other personality types. (These will be largely based on my own personal experiences, but I can get receipts if I have to.)

Black men who are INTJs have their own unique issues and, not being a guy, I can’t really address those. So guys, this is strictly for that rarest of the rare, the Black Woman who happens to be an INTJ. But if you want to chime in about your unique circumstances and experiences, then please do. I’d love to know what life is like for you, too.

I can be reached at :

lkeke35@yahoo.com

 

There are set rules to having an INTJ in your life. (We’re kinda like Gremlins.) So, how do you feed, water, and care for your INTJ:

This is mostly funny but also mostly true. I do spend a hell of a lot of time in my head. I prefer it there, really. The parking is always free and its always entertaining.

 

This is a perfect example of captain Holt from Brooklyn 99 who, ironically, happens to also be one of my favorite characters, on the show. Brooklyn 99 has been on the air for about four years, and in that time we’ve seen Holt display  more emotions, and become more relaxed in the presence of his team. This is a perfect example of me, btw. If I’m very comfortable with you you will be shocked at the sheer levels of silliness. If I don’t know you, it’s impossible to tell if I’m feeling anything at all.