So, this happened about a week or so ago. In case you’re not familiar with what happened, Lena Dunham, the creator of Girls on HBO, was at an event at some sort of dinner event at The Met, with people prettier than her. Rather than dealing with her own insecurities regarding her looks, she decided to foist them onto the back of the nearest Black man, her dinner companion at her table, who wasn’t paying enough (well, any) attention to her.
To his credit the young man in question, sports player, Odell Beckham, has decided to completely nope the fuck out of any and all discussions involving Lena Dunham, which proves his Momma didn’t raise no fool, or that he still doesn’t know who the Hell Lena Dunham is.
For the record, I’ve never been a fan of Ms. Dunham. I’ve heard a Hell of a lot about the show because it s the hottest thing in town, for a certain type of NY middle class, white semi-intellectual. (I say semi, because these are the types of people who are not actually smart. They disdain education but claim to read certain books, or watch certain movies and TV shows, to be seen as smart by other people.) I’ve always considered Dunham to be a female Woody Allen, and I’ve never been impressed with him either. I knew her show Girls wasn’t anything aimed at me because once again you have a NY that is completely devoid of PoC.
I don’t necessarily get mad about things like that, because there’s a certain subset of White people who just aren’t going to have the privilege of having friends of other races, and Lena Dunham is one of those types of White people that Black people do not choose to befriend. She is utterly mediocre in all ways, from her sense of humor, to her looks, to her talent. She’s not even interesting enough to actually hate.
But Tumblr and the rest of the internet did give it the old college try, as everyone and their grandma weighed on what she did, and why it was horribly racist, or sexist, or just plain wrong. Several of these takedowns and clapbacks are absolutely brilliant.
If you don’t give Lena Dunham your undivided attention, she will project her own insecurities on you and assume that your a douchebag from a conversation that never happened.
By now we’ve all heard Lena Dunham’s comments from an interview she participated in with Amy Schumer where the two discussed NFL star New…
Along with the fact that Beckham likely didn’t talk to her because he didn’t know who she was,there’s also a solid chance that he did know who she was and that he didn’t want to talk to herbecause of how problematic and boring she is.
There’s also the fact that only the most self-absorbed, oblivious straight girl of straight girls would think she was being edgy by wearing a fucking suit. As if this extremely successful, well-traveled Black man has never seen a woman in a suit before. Side-eye.
But, as she says in the interview, there she was at the Met Gala surrounded by some of the most gorgeous and talented people in Hollywood, and rather than just sit with her discomfort around her own mediocrity, she decided to non-consensually include Beckham in her self-deprecating thoughts. In doing so she took away Beckham’s agency by assuming that he didn’t have a legit reason for not talking to her, which is both infantilizing and dehumanizing. He’s a grown man who can decide who to talk to or not talk to — he’s not a dog. But maybe Dunham doesn’t know the difference because there are likely more actual dogs on her show than black men…
We could also talk about:
How her comments play into the stereotypes of the hyper-sexualization of Black men(especially athletes) and how damaging and historically significant it is that white people continue to project their fears and insecurities onto Black bodies.
Her performance of victimhood and fragility as if she was being harmed by him sitting there next to her and ignoring her. And the way that she and Amy Schumer put on this woe is me performance to play up how “hard and horrible” it is looking homely and plain amongst athletes and super-models at the Met Gala.
White Feminism’s shallow analysis when it comes to body positivity, which basically boils down to “well he was supposed to desire (objectify) me”,and how these two conventionally sized, able-bodied white women have built careers around trying to monetize a body-positive movement that is for and by large-women, women of color, and visibly-disabled women.
And As Far As Her Response…
At first Dunham responded to criticisms by defending her comments as “just her quirky sense of humor,” but her comments aren’t funny, don’t add anything feminist or body positive to the conversation, and in fact perpetuate stereotypes. Which is both harmful and not entertainment.
After significant internet dragging and educating from Black Twitter™, Dunham finally apologized to Beckham, acknowledging the “often violent history of the over-sexualization of black male bodies, as well as false accusations by white women toward black men.”
…So this outstandingly basic, soggy marshmallow of a human just showed her ass again. Note how she in no way cites or shows any acknowledgement or gratitude towards the Black folks (primarily women) who called her ass out and got her to this point of understanding. Shows she’s learned nothing.